The female orgasm has something mystical, mysterious, something that would almost be unattainable for some. Even today, many received ideas surround female enjoyment. A sex therapist untangles truths from myths to help us enjoy, finally, good sex and orgasms without hindrance.
A study led by Professor Kim Wallen of the Department of Psychology and Neuroendocrinology at Emory University in Atlanta, USA, confirms the increased frequency of orgasm when penetration is “assisted” with a stimulation of the clitoris: about once in two, against one time out of four in its absence. One could of course emphasize that it is not so bad because the orgasm is not essential to the sexual relation, which is exact, but we should remember all the same that men have tthem one nine out of ten times.
For the majority of women therefore, the chances of having an orgasm during vaginal penetration are optimal when it is associated with stimulation of the clitoris. In the last national survey on Australian sexuality (20,000 respondents in 2013), seven out of ten women said they had received clitoral caresses from their partner… and the same proportion did it herself.
Ten years earlier, researchers at Sidney University had noted that the chances of a woman having an orgasm were optimal (90% chance) when she had cunnilingus and clitoral stimulation, and minimal when the ratio was limited to vaginal penetration (50% chance).
The “magic triplette” of vaginal penetration, clitoral stimulation and cunnilingus was the winning one in terms of orgasmic performance: 70%. Penetration alone thus was established to do little for orgasm. For women. For men, orgasm occurred in more than 90% of cases regardless of the combination used. The numbers just indicated a low score (82% chance of having an orgasm) following a partner-assisted masturbation.
What is interesting in the Australian study of 2003 is to see that if we looked at the last sex of respondents, the “magic triplette” was only practiced in 21% of cases and three-quarters of reports were restricted to vaginal penetration alone (20%) or masturbation (53%).
There are two orgasms, one vaginal and the other clitoral, point G is a myth, women who do not enjoy sex are frigid… Analysis of some misconceptions that continue to overshadow the female enjoyment.
There are two types of orgasm, vaginal and clitoral. If this idea has long been the norm, it is not proven. For lack of knowledge, we tend to think that there are two types of orgasms. This is how those who enjoy only masturbation of the glans of the clitoris, think they cannot have orgasm through penetration. This false information is due in particular to the lack of control of the functioning of the clitoris. The professionals remind us that clitoris is the only organ of pleasure for women. It presents an external part, but also has the internal. Orgasm can be created during penetration, which stimulates this internal part.
To reach orgasm, foreplay must last. False, but… foreplay contributes to it. Foreplay allows to trigger vaginal pulsations and secretions. Both promote lubrication and therefore better penetration. But in reality, every woman is different. Not to mention that orgasm also depends on the state of mind in which we are.
Women reach orgasm less easily than men. True, but it is not that they reach it less easily, but letting go is longer than it takes for a man.