Reasons to feel orgasm instead of simulating it

One of the most recent sexology surveys has shown that one in four women and one in twenty men did not have an orgasm during their last sexual encounter. Another question this investigation pursued was whether faux orgasm was an occasional or regular thing for the respondent. The numbers indicate that more than half of the women were able to simulate orgasm quite seldom (25%), sometimes (24%) or often (7%). One in four men had had simulated an orgasm at least once.

But how exactly do we simulate it? A Canadian team gave the answer last February in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Most people do it by imitating orgasm-like body movements and reactions (acceleration of the back-and-forth motions, rapid breathing, abrupt muscle tension followed by relaxation etc.) accompanied also by expressive moans. This last method was the favorite for female simulators. Equally 10% men and 10% women were lying to their partner about an orgasm they had not experienced.

Why females shouldn’t simulate?

We’ll leave men’s reasons for some other time; as for women, the problem is quite ubiquitous and boils down to a dilemma. Particularly, a woman who never simulates an orgasm will risk seeing her man disillusioned in his ability to give her a real orgasm every time. Conversely, a woman who simulates regularly will never encourage her partner to discover her erogenous zones and the ways to give her pleasure. The implications of even one simulation could be very far-reaching in that your man may try to repeat some technique or another at which he, in truth, never succeeded that last faux time.

Guiding rather than simulating

First of all, transparency is essential because it allows your partner to know you. And in sexuality, the more we know each other, the bigger is our mutual understanding and love. For a woman, transparency is a game of finding the golden middle between her pleasure felt and her pleasure demonstrated.

Your ability to imitate orgasms successfully may seem like a great tool at first, but this simulation will quickly become the poison of your sex life. You simply run the risk of getting your sexual image across as distorted. At the same time, some of us are naturally discreet with our sensuality and some are actual extroverts. Do not hesitate, and instead of simulating, guide him to show the real you! Knowledge of your partner is the most powerful aphrodisiac and far superior to simulated pleasure.

Published by Evelyn Green